Are you happy with the level of intimacy that you have in your relationship? If so you probably have considered talking to your partner but never got around to it because of fear.

Let me first say that it is very important to talk to your partner and let them know you are unhappy in the bedroom. If you are not satisfied sexually that can have a negative impact on your relationship. Communication is one of the most important parts of any relationship. If you cannot talk to your partner about your sexually wants and needs how do you expect the relationship to continue to grow?

As stated before communication is extremely important. It is vital that you tell your partner how you feel. The only way your sex life will have a chance of getting better is if you express yourself.

You should also note that if you aren't happy in the bedroom it's a good chance your partner might not be happy in the bedroom as well. That's why it is so important to communicate. When you discuss sex with your partner ask them their wants and needs as well. Don't just focus on your own wants and needs. Remember this about the both of you not just you.

Although it can be a great thing to talk to your partner about your sex life I do realize it can be a very hard thing to do as well. For most couples sex is a very uncomfortable subject to talk about. Add in the fact that you are expressing dissatisfaction that can make it even more uncomfortable. Don't be surprised if your partner becomes a little defensive or even angry.

When you are ready to talk to your partner be sure to use your best judgment. Don't criticize your partner. That is a big no no. Doing so will not get you the desired results. Instead, be very gentle in your approach. Say how you feel and then listen to them and how they feel. Listening is probably the most important part of all.

Remember, there is a good and bad side to approaching your partner about your unhappiness in the bedroom. But, the end result is a lot of the times well worth the discomfort. Just remember to approach your partner in a gentle manner. Don't be overbearing. Keep in mind that it's not what you say but how you say it.

Do you have a wife who is super-critical of herself?

Does your wife discredit and dismiss your every compliment in favor of her own negative opinion of herself?

If so, you're not alone. There are many men who truthfully think their wife is beautiful and sexy and yet HER negative perspective of herself continues to be a major OBSTACLE in their marriage. SHE is blocking their marriage from being the happy, fulfilling union it is meant to be.

And, the more the husband tries to verbally or physically comfort her and reassure her, the more she goes negative.

So, what's a guy to do - especially if his wife's negative opinion of her self is destroying their marriage?

Well, here are some ideas for you to consider:

1. Consider taking a stronger leadership role in your marriage where you apply leadership principles such as the following:

o Continuous "messaging" - think of yourself as having the responsibility of positively "brainwashing" your wife. You're brainwashing her to believe that SHE IS LOVED BY YOU, that SHE IS ATTRACTIVE TO YOU, and any other messages that you want her to hold as true. When a person receives a message often enough, they eventually come to believe it to be true.

o Authority dictation - consider taking a more authoritarian stance as a man who dictates in this area of weakness in your wife. For example, if your wife says she "feels ugly" then you firmly tell her, "I WILL BE THE ONE WHO DECIDES WHETHER I THINK YOU ARE PRETTY OR UGLY - NOT YOU! AND, IF I SAY YOU ARE PRETTY THEN THAT MEANS YOU ARE PRETTY, OK? NOW GET OVER HERE AND KISS ME LIKE A PRETTY WOMAN WOULD KISS ME!"

o Role playing - in some cases, it works better to simply ask your wife to "play the role of a pretty woman". This is exactly what I engaged when I used the phrase, "get over here and kiss me like a pretty woman would kiss me". It doesn't matter whether or not she thinks she's pretty. All she has to do is kiss like she IMAGINES a pretty woman would kiss like. In this way, you get what you want and totally bypass any hang-ups she has. This can be a powerful tool for you.

o Set expectations - while you are away - whether for the day or for a week, you can communicate to her what you want to have happen when you get home. So for example, if you're away for a week on business, you can start telling her on Wednesday that you're looking forward to returning home, that you're excited to see her - and then go into descriptive detail of how you will be acting and behaving and how you want her to be acting and behaving. And, it's not so much that you're telling her how you want her to act as much as it's you describing her acting and responding in a certain way. Think in terms of taking a group of kids to the zoo and you're describing what they can do, what they can't do, when they can do certain things and when they can't do certain things. In this same vein, when you describe and set positive expectation for your wife, it redirects her mind to "travel" along with your way of thinking and off of her own way of self-critical thinking.

2. Help your wife understand that she lives in her body but she is not her body. That might sound a little weird at first but it's important that every person understand that. Attractive women especially tend to have such an obsession with their physical characteristics that they never realize that they are a spiritual being who happens to be dwelling in a physical body at this time. So, WHO SHE IS AS A PERSON is far more important than what the body she lives in looks like. Yes, the body is important but it's not the most important thing. Here's another way to think of this, if your wife was 100 years old - inside of her shriveled, wrinkled, sagging, and weakened body there would still be a BEAUTIFUL, LOVING, WONDERFUL, YOUTHFUL person inside. That's the part of her that you want to help her access and associate with more so than her physical body.

3. Do a double-check on yourself to make sure that you aren't inadvertently saying or doing things that trigger insecurity within your wife. This can happen in all sorts of ways. What you might think is a benign remark about some other woman - even if it's a sister or relative - can trigger massive insecurity or jealousy in your wife. So, watch out for this.

4. Be aware that the work environment you're in or maybe the friends or associates that you associate with may well be triggering insecurity in your wife. For example, soldiers (men and women) are notorious for hitting the bars and hooking up for some sex on the side. You may not participate in any of this but if those around you are, then this can be very threatening to your wife.

5. Sometimes it's useful to help people see how they impact others. In your case, when you compliment your wife and she starts self-deprecating, stop her right in the middle and ask her to consider how it might make you feel when you've given her a compliment and she dismisses that compliment as if you were some insignificant idiot. It may be that she's never considered things from this angle. So, stop her when she dismisses your compliments and get into a discussion of what her thoughts and feelings are and how it is that has come to have those particular thoughts and feelings. Then, express your thoughts and feelings. After both of you have expressed, then work out a mutually acceptable solution.

6. Another approach is to have her consider how her self-critical perspective is an offense to God. In other words, if she thinks she's ugly, then she's in effect saying that God made something ugly. God doesn't make mistakes, God doesn't make junk - and she should stop making such false accusations to God.

Based on your knowledge of your relationship, you probably already recognize some ideas that are right for you - and you can now do the right things to get your marriage going in the right direction.

Copyright 2008, Article by Calle Zorro of NymphomaniacWife.com. Permission is granted to reprint this article ONLY if the resource box pointing to our websites is included with it.

In the next two minutes, you will discover how you complicate your relationships.

First, who said you had to be in a relationship to feel loved, cherished and to have a good time?

Second, if what you are doing isn't working maybe it's time to try something new and different.

Here's what I propose...stop looking for a relationship and start looking for companionship!

Think about it!

Don't you want someone you can...

• Spend time with
• Who is truly interested in you
• Likes similar activities
• Fits your lifestyle
• And much, much more

...then stop looking for a relationship. When you look for a relationship you focus on expecting something to happen. For example, you get involved with a person hoping it leads to a long-term relationship, marriage and maybe children.

However, when you focus on companionship your future with the person is not important. What's important is, "Are you two compatible enough to do activities with each other."

There are no expectations! Just two people enjoying each others company. When that happens anything and everything is possible.

Take a moment and think about your best friends of the opposite sex! You don't expect anything from them in terms of a relationship. Yet, you thoroughly enjoy spending time with them.

Once you have companionship it can develop into more. Remember, the key is not what it will evolve into but are you enjoying yourself with that person!

That little shift in your thought process will have dramatic life-changing effects.

Let me give you an example. I met a wonderful women about two years ago. We became friends. While I was definitely attracted to her and wanted to have a relationship she wasn't having it. She made it perfectly clear it will be, "just friends."

At first it was difficult to be just friends because I was really into her. Then one day we had a conversation and I realized I was holding myself back by looking for a relationship.

I began to immediately separate and discard the relationship feelings and adopt the companionship feelings. I finally understood, after thirty-five years, I didn't want to be in a relationship. What I was always looking for was companionship...

• Someone to do things with
• Someone to talk with who has similar beliefs and heading in the same direction
• Someone who cared about me
• Someone who took an interest in me and what I do for a living
• Someone who made time for me because they wanted too not because they felt obligated
• Someone willing to give without me having to ask all the time
• And much more

If you're still stuck looking for a relationship, I wish you well and hope everything works out for you.

However, if you're willing to adopt the companionship mindset you will have endless possibilities available to you!

It won't be easy! It took me about six months to make the transition. However, I was ready and looking for a way to improve my life. I am so happy I did!

I could never understand why someone would choose to be with his/herself! Now I know!

Do yourself a favor and stop settling for unhappy relationships and improve your love life. Try making the shift to companionship and see what happens! What do you have to lose?

In the meantime.
You do not have to go abroad to speak a new language. When I read some articles here at ezinearticles I’ve come across the statement that there are already big differences between the east coast and the west coast in the US. “They speak a different language over there.”

You could travel less to experience language differences within one and the same company. The departmental differences in languages can be huge. A good lesson for all of us would be to reserve one morning and help you colleagues in another department. Experience how they work around ‘there’ and find out what the differences are. It will open your mind (and it is good for the working relations).

Back to the four employees. And back to the moment when the four will meet again after one year. What will happen?

The ones that stayed where they were have learned and improved their working methods. As in other years, the productivity grew by improving their working methods, communication skills, etc.

The two that have been away experienced a complete new environment. When they come back to the original department, the first thing they will do is – after a thorough interaction about the mutual experiences – to bring new ideas in. They want to change the working habits, alter the procedures and probably also introduce a feature they have seen in the other organization.

The four colleagues argue a bit about the advantages and disadvantages, they exchange some more ideas and after a while business will turn back as usual. Or maybe not. Depending on the situation.

Many times a change is not necessary. Ideas are always welcome, newcomers are a fruitful source of fresh ideas (young people are sometimes hired for that goal – to refresh the culture), but what suits well for one organization doesn’t have to be an issue for another. There should be an urgency to change. If that is not the case, you might as well continue the improvement path.

© 2005 Hans Bool / Astor White

A common problem in many marriages is a lack of couple time. If you have children, particularly young ones, you already know how much of your time and focus they require. An unhappy husband may feel neglected in some ways. It's likely not that he feels resentment towards the children, but that he misses the time you two used to spend together. A great way to remedy this is to pick at least one night a week for adult time. Plan something that includes only you and your spouse. Look to friends or family members to help with the kids. In order to keep the romance between the two of you alive, you do need to devote some attention to it.

Another way to make an unhappy husband happy is to focus on making yourself happier. If you have found yourself overwhelmed with the demands of being a wife, mother and career woman, look for extra help. Often, we take out our frustrations on the person closest to us. In a marriage, that's going to be our husband. Try and deflect your frustrations away from your relationship with your husband. There's nothing wrong with taking a few things off your plate if you know the end result will be a more satisfying and happy marriage.